As previous year, I should be doing all these reflect and look back a week before the real date of our solemnisation.. But this year is kind of a busy year for me *padahal dah tak larat sebab asyik mengah and dah mula rasa penat. Maklum la, reaching 32 weeks bebeh!*
Okay, so the moment I am typing this, it is alreadh 23rd January 2015, which means it's going to be 3 more days for my marriage with le husband reaches 2nd year :)
Eleh, mesti ada yang baca ni cakap I poyo ke ape ke kan, but lantak lah. This is my blog and I have reasons why I am doing this.. And nawaitu saya bukan la sebab saya nak berlagak or what, but this is ala ala tribute or a walk of memory lane gituhhhh...
Well, being a wife is not easy. In a way, apa apa pun mesti kena dahulukan suami.. Terkadang lupa yang kita ni terlalu rapat dengan family kita sebelum
kahwin, jadi dah macam terbiasa if kita dahulukan parents.. and this is including me I must say..
It takes a hard time for me to betul betyl faham konsep "dahulukan suami dulu no matter what".. Bukan nak jadi kuno ke apa, tapi that's the fact. Did u know that even if your husband forbids you dari jumpa you parents, you just have to follow? Lucky me, my husband is not that kind of person.. Alhamdulillah,dia sangat tolerate walaupun I kena faham yang dia play role as Along dalam adik beradik dia and he has to utamakan his parents juga.. Ingat ye, kalau melawan kita dah consider derhaka pada somi. Tak nak le gitchuu.. Hehe
So, how to elak from all this gaduh gaduh,tengking tengking and tarik muka sesh? Well, I believe that communication is important.. In a way, kita kan perempuan.. We have our advantage of being a female to talk nicely with the husband.. After all, takkan la husband u nak makan u? Hehehe
Apa yang I sendiri experience is that.. Whatever things that you do, memang kena fikir betul betul. Lagi lagi kita ni perempuan, bila marah tu.. Kemainn.. Pikir la yang "laki den tak sayang den", "tah pape tah, sikit sikit nak marah" atau pun asal gaduh sikit je "Jah nak balik rumah mak Jah. Jah tak kira".. Hai yang sampai nak balik rumah mak tu yang tak tahan tu.. Sampai bila nak ada attitude macam ni? Cer Jah blajar kira.. Hehehe :)
Memang betul yang kita ni sangat la sensentap.. Haaa. Akak dah keluar vocab baru.. Sensitip plus kuat sentap = Sensentap.. Tu biasa la perempuan.. Tapi, I started to think about kenapa husband tu acted that way? asal dia macam hingaq sangat kalau tak dengar kata?
Alahaii.. Sebab dia sayang kita la wahai kawan kawan.. I admit, masa awal awal kahwin--> adegan tarik muka, ekspresi sinetron indonesia kalau bengang (kan dia pause ala ala 5 minit sebab nak focus muka bengang pelakon tu), cerita cinta korea yang suka tarik tali (bila laki kau pujuk kata sorry, kau beria tak nak, konon nak makan romantik, puiii) and many more tu adalah terjadi dalam hubungan.. Ate, dah namanya drama queen! :p
Namun.. I belajar yang kalau nak selamat.. Diam je dulu.. Sakit hati macamana, diam je dulu. Yang kau gaduh beria macam WWE tu apa dapat? Lelaki ni ego.. Kalaupun diorang salah, ko hengat diorang nak mengaku on the spot? Eh kamon lah.. Tengok cerita sembilu.. Awie yg marah kat erra tu pun ambik mood naik motor siar siar satu KL dulu tau sebelum pujuk Erra.. Kui kui kui :p
Anyway, apa yang penting.. Toleransi. Sakit macamana pun hati perempuan, ingatlah.. Suami kau bukannya sengaja nak marah marah ke ape.. Life is alearning process.. Kalau kita boleh bertindak dengan baik, kenapa pula nak keruhkan keadaan?
Another thing I learnt is that.. And also
Practice ye.. Deep inside your heart memang la nangis nangis tahap menikam bantal bantal kekabu tu.. Tapi percaya la.. Istighfar dan zikir banyak banyak..Sangat membantu..
And jangan pernah rasa diri tu kesorangan.. Allah kan ada :) berdoa selalu ye..jadi marilah kita sama sama jadi isteri yang sabar dan munasabah diri inshaaAllah :)
Cerita saya ni sebagai perkongsian ye.. Jangan pulak ikut mana yg tak baik ye kawan kawan :)
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